Darkness to Dialogue: Living Well With Mental Illness

Looking Back, Moving Forward This month’s spotlight feature is Caralyn Dreyer, mental health recovery advocate, writer, and the sole creator and voice behind Darkness to Dialogue: Living Well with Mental Illness . Drawing from her own healing journey, Caralyn shares reflections, insights, and lessons from the first year of building this space for connection, compassion, and recovery. Celebrating a year of courage, connection, and the quiet power of healing together. The Journey So Far One year ago, Darkness to Dialogue launched as a space for honest conversations about mental health and recovery. In this founder’s letter, I share the lessons, challenges, and breakthroughs of the past year, and my vision for the next chapter of this community. A story of courage, connection, and the quiet power of healing. Looking Back: A Year of Healing Next month marks a deeply meaningful milestone, one year since Darkness to Dialogue first opened its doors. One year of honest conversations, vu...

Summary  Do you ever react in ways you later regret? In recovery, the difference between reacting and deciding can define your progress. By learning to pause, reflect, and choose intentional responses, you gain control over your healing journey and build resilience that lasts. Quick Insight Reacting is automatic; deciding is intentional. In mental health recovery, pausing before responding allows you to manage emotions, make healthier choices, and strengthen long-term coping skills. Learning to Pause in Recovery Recovery from mental illness isn’t a straight line. For years, I believed that healing meant suppressing my emotions or never stumbling. But the truth is, emotions are going to happen; they’re unavoidable. What matters is how we respond to them. For me, reacting meant snapping at loved ones, shutting down, or spiraling into shame. These patterns kept me stuck in cycles of guilt and frustration, even as I was making progress in other areas of life. Over time, I realized that...

  Summary Surrender is often misunderstood as giving up, but in mental health recovery, it’s a powerful tool of acceptance and self-compassion. This post explores how surrender, letting go of control over what cannot be changed: reduces stress enhances emotional resilience supports sustainable healing  Drawing from psychological research and practical strategies, learn how adopting surrender can transform your recovery journey.  Learning to Let Go and Find Strength There have been many times when I found myself locked in a relentless internal battle. I fought my emotions, intrusive thoughts, and circumstances that at times were far beyond my control. Every attempt to push through felt exhausting and ultimately futile. I was pouring energy into resisting reality, and the harder I pushed, the heavier the weight felt on my shoulders. One day, amid this struggle, I realized that my fight against what I couldn’t change was actually holding me back. True progress didn’t c...

The Psychology of Boredom: Why It’s Good for Your Brain As someone who thrives on productivity and constant activity, I’ve often struggled with boredom. It’s uncomfortable, even frustrating, and can sometimes feel like wasted time. For me, this goes deeper than just a dislike of idleness—it's also tied to a trauma response. Sitting still has never felt safe or natural. Constant motion has been my way of coping, distracting, and surviving. But over time, I’ve learned that boredom isn’t necessarily a bad thing. In fact, it can be a powerful tool for personal growth and mental health. It’s still something I’m working on, but I’ve started to embrace those quiet moments as opportunities for creativity, reflection, and self-awareness.  In this post, I’ll share what I’ve learned about the surprising benefits of boredom and how you can start to see it in a new light, too. Boredom is often seen as a nuisance – a state of mind to avoid at all costs. We live in a world full of distractions, ...