10 Simple Ways to Help a Friend with Mental Health Issues

 

Practical Ways to Support a Friend Struggling with Mental Health

Over the years, I’ve faced some tough spots with my mental health. There have been times when I felt overwhelmed, drained, and stuck in a fog of anxiety. One afternoon, a friend reached out to me, and we had a long conversation. Instead of offering advice or trying to fix things, they simply listened, letting me express everything I was feeling without judgment. The way they stayed calm and supportive made me feel like I wasn’t alone in what I was going through. Their encouraging words helped shift my perspective, and I felt a little more hopeful. It reminded me just how powerful it can be to have someone willing to listen and offer support, no matter how simple it seems.

Supporting a friend with mental health challenges can feel overwhelming, especially if you’ve never been in their shoes. But even though you might not have all the answers, your care and understanding can make a big difference. Whether your friend is struggling with anxiety, depression, or just feeling down, showing that you care can help them feel less alone. Here are 10 simple ways you can support your friend through tough times.

1. Listen Without Judgment

Sometimes, the best thing you can do for a friend is to just listen. Let them express their feelings without interrupting or offering solutions right away. Show empathy by saying things like, “I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way,” or “That sounds really tough.” Your friend may need someone to vent to, not someone to fix their problems.

Example: If your friend is feeling anxious, instead of offering advice, you simply listen and nod, giving them space to talk about their fears without feeling rushed to “fix” them.

2. Check in Regularly

Mental health struggles can make people feel isolated, so it’s important to reach out. Send a text, give a call, or plan a regular hangout to remind your friend you’re there. Sometimes, just knowing someone cares enough to check in can be comforting.

Example: If you notice your friend hasn’t been texting back lately, send a simple message: “Hey, how’s everything going? I’m here if you want to talk.” Your check-in could be just what they need to feel supported.

3. Encourage Self-Care

When someone is struggling with their mental health, they might forget to take care of themselves. Encourage your friend to engage in activities that promote well-being, like going for a walk, eating a healthy meal, or getting enough sleep. Offer to do things together, like cooking a simple meal or going for a nature walk.

Example: If you notice your friend has been feeling low, suggest taking a walk in the park together. Afterward, they might admit they feel a little lighter, and you’ve helped them get some fresh air.

4. Be Patient

Healing from mental health challenges takes time, and progress isn’t always linear. Be patient and don’t expect your friend to “snap out of it.” They may have good days and bad days, and that’s okay. Show support regardless of where they are in their journey.

Example: If your friend cancels plans because they’re having a rough day, don’t take it personally. Simply say, “I understand. Whenever you’re ready, I’m here,” and give them the space they need.

5. Offer to Help with Tasks

Mental health struggles can make everyday tasks feel overwhelming. Offer to help your friend with simple things, like grocery shopping, cleaning, or even just sitting with them. These small gestures can take a lot of pressure off and help them feel supported.

Example: If you know your friend is having a tough time, offer to pick up some groceries for them or help with household chores. This might make their day a little easier and show you care.

6. Validate Their Feelings

It can be tempting to offer solutions like, “Just think positive!” Instead, focus on validating your friend’s feelings. Let them know it’s okay to feel what they’re feeling and that their emotions are real and important.

Example: If your friend feels hopeless, instead of minimizing it, say something like, “I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way. Given everything going on right now, it makes sense that you’d feel down.” This lets them know you’re listening and understand.

7. Respect Their Boundaries

Sometimes, a friend may need space. Respecting their boundaries is important in showing support. Let them know you’re there if they need you but understand if they don’t want to talk or hang out at that moment. It’s about finding the right balance.

Example: If your friend says they need some alone time, respond with, “No worries at all. I’m here when you’re ready.” This shows you respect their need for space while also reminding them you’re available when they’re ready.

8. Encourage Professional Help

While friends can offer great support, professional help may be necessary for long-term healing. If your friend hasn’t already sought help, encourage them to talk to a counselor or therapist. Offer to help them find a professional if they’re unsure where to start.

Example: If your friend is hesitant about seeing a therapist, you can gently suggest, “Talking to someone could really help. I can help you look up therapists if you want.” This shows you care about their well-being and are there to support them in taking that step.

9. Be Mindful of Your Words

It’s easy to say the wrong thing without meaning to, especially when you’re trying to be supportive. Avoid making statements that could minimize their experience, like “It’s all in your head” or “Others have it worse.” Instead, focus on showing understanding and compassion.

Example: If your friend expresses frustration, respond with, “I can’t imagine how tough this must be for you. I’m here to listen.” This helps your friend feel heard and supported without judgment.

10. Offer Distractions

Sometimes, a little distraction can help your friend take a break from their worries. Invite them to do something fun or relaxing, like watching a movie, playing a game, or going for coffee. The goal isn’t to ignore their struggles but to provide a moment of relief.

Example: If your friend is feeling overwhelmed, suggest doing something lighthearted, like watching a movie or trying out a fun hobby together. This will give them a chance to focus on something positive for a while.

Conclusion

Supporting a friend with mental health challenges is a powerful way to show you care. By listening, offering practical help, and being patient, you’re providing a crucial safety net for someone going through tough times. 

Remember, even small gestures can make a world of difference. Your consistent kindness and understanding can help your friend feel less alone, and that can be the spark they need to begin healing.

If you’re experiencing mental health struggles, don’t hesitate to reach out for help. Whether it’s through professional counseling or having open conversations with your friends or family, resources to support you. Your mental well-being is important, and taking steps to care for it can improve your work life and overall quality of life.

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Disclaimer: The information provided is for informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional advice. If you are struggling, it is important to seek help from a licensed mental health professional who can offer personalized guidance and support.

For more information about the topics discussed consider visiting the following links:

1). Mental Health Foundation. (n.d.). How to support someone with a mental health problem. Mental Health Foundation. https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/explore-mental-health/articles/how-support-someone-mental-health-problem

2). University of Cincinnati. (2020, February 27). Helping friends with mental health concerns. University of Cincinnati. https://grad.uc.edu/student-life/news/Helping-Friends-With-Mental-Health-Concerns.html