🌿Quick Summary
Pivoting doesn’t mean failure—it means choosing your mental health over staying stuck. Whether you're changing careers, relationships, goals, or ways of thinking, learning how to pivot can ease emotional stress and build resilience. This skill is especially important for those living with mental illness, where rigid expectations can lead to burnout or relapse.
➡️ Pivoting = flexible thinking under pressure
➡️ Mental health improves when your life aligns with your values
➡️ You’re allowed to change course—even if others don’t understand
👇 Keep reading to explore the psychology behind pivoting and how to make peace with letting go.
Personal Reflection: Letting Go Was the Hardest Part
I used to believe that once I committed to something, I had to follow through—no matter what it cost me emotionally. Whether it was a job, a relationship, or even a version of myself I’d outgrown, I’d stay long past the point it made sense… because changing direction felt like failure. I thought pivoting meant I was giving up. That I was weak. That I hadn’t tried hard enough.
This belief hit me hardest when I was facing the decision to get a divorce. The emotional toll was heavy, but what weighed me down even more was the feeling of failure, compounded by comparison. It felt like everyone else had figured out how to be successful at marriage, at life, at happiness… and I was the one who couldn’t keep it together.
But eventually, I hit a wall, a breaking point in my mental health where survival became more important than appearance. I had to make a choice: keep pushing through for the sake of “not quitting,” or pivot and protect my peace.
It wasn’t easy. Pivoting felt like surrender at first, like losing. But slowly, it became something else: a lifeline. A quiet, powerful way of telling myself, “You’re allowed to choose again.”
For those of us living with anxiety, depression, or other mental health challenges, pivoting isn’t just a strategy. Sometimes, it’s survival. It’s how we reclaim our power, moment by moment. And that is not failure, it’s wisdom.
What It Means to Pivot (Psychologically Speaking)
In mental health terms, pivoting is a form of psychological flexibility or the ability to shift your thinking and behavior when your current path no longer serves your well-being.
According to a 2022 study in Clinical Psychology Review, psychological flexibility is closely linked to lower levels of:
- anxiety
- depression
- emotional distress.
“Mental rigidity can be a hidden contributor to burnout and emotional exhaustion.”
(Hayes et al., 2022)
When you pivot, you're not giving up; you’re making space for a better fit. I think it is important to remind yourself that if something goes wrong and plans change after the pivot, you will be okay, and you can learn and keep pushing forward.
Why Pivoting Feels So Hard
Here’s what makes pivoting emotionally difficult, especially for those of us living with mental illness:
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Fear of judgment: Others may not understand your decision, which triggers shame.
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Loss of identity: When a path has defined you, changing it can leave you feeling untethered.
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Perfectionism: The inner voice that says, “You should’ve figured this out already.”
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Mental illness symptoms: Depression can make it hard to recognize when change is needed. Anxiety can make it feel impossible to take the leap.
But here's the reframe: Choosing your peace over perfection is an act of emotional maturity.
The Mental Health Benefits of Pivoting
Shifting direction isn’t easy, but your mind often needs to recover, refocus, and heal.
1. 🧠 Reduces Mental Strain
Staying on a path that drains you creates ongoing internal conflict. Pivoting lightens that cognitive and emotional load.
Science says: A 2023 article in the Journal of Contextual Behavioral Science found that people who adapted their goals to match their emotional needs had significantly better long-term psychological health.
2. 💬 Improves Self-Compassion
Letting yourself pivot encourages a gentler internal dialogue. You begin to say things like, “This no longer works for me,” instead of, “What’s wrong with me?”
3. ⚖️ Builds Emotional Resilience
Learning when to pivot helps you stay grounded during times of uncertainty. It means trusting yourself to respond with intention, rather than simply react. Having started over more than once—whether due to divorce or leaving abusive relationships—I’ve come to understand the deeply empowering feeling that comes with self-trust.
Pivoting While Living With Mental Illness
If you’re navigating anxiety, trauma, OCD, or depression, pivoting might feel like a risk. But it can also be a vital form of self-preservation.
Mental illness can make life feel unpredictable. That’s why flexibility matters. The more permission you give yourself to reassess and re-align, the more you protect your mental and emotional bandwidth.
Whether it’s changing therapy approaches, ending toxic relationships, switching medications, or even just pausing to rest, pivoting helps regulate stress and prevent relapse.
💡 You don’t owe the world consistency at the cost of your healing.
How to Know When It’s Time to Pivot
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You feel dread or burnout instead of motivation
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Your values have shifted, but your direction hasn’t
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You feel trapped by an old version of yourself
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Your mental health is declining because of what you're clinging to
If this feels familiar, you don’t need a full plan to pivot. You just need to give yourself permission to start considering something different.
Take it from me, the first step(s) can be scary, but with patience, courage, and hope, the pivot will be well worth the fear.
Final Thoughts 🌼💭💚
Pivoting is not failure—it’s a form of wisdom. It’s a declaration that says, “I care enough about myself to change.” When life shifts or something no longer serves your well-being, the bravest thing you can do is respond with honesty and self-compassion.
🌱 Letting go of what no longer fits isn’t giving up—it’s growing up.
💡 Pivoting is how we choose peace over perfection, presence over pressure.
🌈 You’re allowed to begin again, today, tomorrow, or whenever your heart needs a fresh start.
In mental health, change can feel scary, but it’s often the beginning of real healing. If you’re in the middle of a pivot, know this: you are not alone. Every new chapter you write is a sign that you're listening to your needs and showing up for yourself.
✨ Keep going. Keep choosing you.
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Disclaimer: The information provided is for informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional advice. If you are struggling, it is important to seek help from a licensed mental health professional who can offer personalized guidance and support.
For more information about the topics discussed, consider visiting the following links:
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Hayes, S.C., et al. (2022). Psychological flexibility and mental health: A review of processes and outcomes. Clinical Psychology Review.
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Kashdan, T.B., & Rottenberg, J. (2023). Psychological flexibility as a fundamental aspect of health. Journal of Contextual Behavioral Science.
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https://www.brainsway.com/knowledge-center/where-ocd-depression-and-anxiety-converge/
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